Establishing Online Dating Relationships: Safety First

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Online dating can be fun. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Protect Your Computer

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm for online dating. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

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Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate online dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

So take care when online dating. Arm your computer – and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!

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How To Date All Your Dream Girls Using Two Simple Tricks

There are hundreds of marketers pitching seduction methods promising success with women but almost none teach you what works on today's woman. Most of these hucksters promote stuff your grand-daddy did that just no longer works. Here is how to date your dream girl of the moment.

The typical sales headline reads: "How To Date Hot Women!"

They promise to teach you how to score with the female that turns every head when she walks by. You know the type, the super-model looking babe. These marketers never mention the girl-next-door type, chances are, would be a much hotter girl for a relationship.

The real question for you is: "Who is the girl you are dreaming about at the moment?"

If it's the super-model type, you can have her. If it's the average girl, you can have her too. It doesn't matter how she looks to other guys, it only matters if she "trips your trigger." The girl who does that for you, is the one you can have if you go about it using the right techniques.

This even applies to the girl who dumped you for someone else because, obviously, your technique was not good enough to keep her hooked. With the right techniques, any woman will be begging you to come back to her. To her, you will be a brand new man!

Almost every guy that you know wants to date a hot girl but, and you know this is true, they almost never have that experience. They end up dating someone who will date just about anyone or someone who has a crush on them. Usually that someone is not in your dream girl category. Am I right?

Why do you think that's true?

The answer is, hot girls intimidate most guys. The average guy thinks too lowly of himself so he never steps up to the plate. He just sits in the dugout and watches the star players do all the scoring with these beauties.

Tell me the truth. When you see a woman like this, you have a fleeting fantasy about what it would be like to be with her, to hold her, to kiss her, or just to hold hands with her. Your breath shortens a bit and your heart pounds a bit and it ends there. When it comes time to step up to the mound and pitch, you tell yourself you will surely be laughed at.

Is this familiar? Sure it is.

Now here is a little secret that will give you an edge over 99% of other men:

99% of men are just like you are at this moment. They make excuses for their lack of courage when it comes time to communicate with their idea of a dream girl. Do you see how this can give you an edge?

Would you like to be among the 1% of men who aren't afraid of failure and who know just how to get a date with their dream girl of the moment? These are the guys that know, even if they don't score with every dream girl, the odds are still in their favor. They know that, if they go to bat enough times, they are going to hit home runs. And, they do!

A good salesperson will not quit until they get the seventh "No" when they ask the closing question. That's why they are successful.

Get the point?

In order to have a rich dating life, you have to step up to the plate and swing the bat. You have to keep asking the closing questions.

Did you know that "Babe" Ruth held the record for strike-outs at the same time as holding the record for most home runs in his career? The "Babe" swung at even the bad pitches. He could golf the baseball out of the park!

Here is the #1 reason that most men do not approach women: It is because of a mental block. You are likely suffering from the same problem if you find yourself frozen in your tracks and unable to approach your dream girl of the moment. Let's solve your problem right now.

The first thing you need to do is to create a new way of thinking about yourself and all women.

This involves convincing yourself that you are really a worthy guy, someone any woman would be lucky to know on an intimate basis. This is an exercise in raising your self esteem which, may I say, is pretty low when it comes to women. Try these self-talk points or make up your own:

• "I can have a relationship with most women I choose"
• "Because a woman is beautiful doesn't mean I can't have her."
• "I attract women and they find me attractive.
• "No woman is too classy for me."
• "Most guys are afraid of beautiful women. I'm not afraid."

Say these talking points to yourself, out loud if possible, many times a day.

Believe it or not, adopting a positive attitude about yourself and how you view women will make you more attractive and interesting to women. Women read men on an intuitive level, "vibes" if you will, and your high self esteem will show through without you uttering a word.

You may find this second trick takes some hit and miss practice.

You need to understand the proven way to successfully communicate. The major problem you have had with approaching attractive women is you simply did not know how to flirt with them in the right ways.

You have watched other guys employ stupid techniques and get rejected time and again. And, without one of the successful 1% to teach you the right way, you will remain among the failing 99%.

It's a proven fact, getting a date with a super-hot babe comes down to one very powerful technique: Knowing how to flirt.

Each woman will respond to a certain flirting technique. If you know how to flirt with each type of woman, you will reach them at an exciting level that most guys have no clue is there.

You see, 99% of guys fail because they are not focused on the girl and what she needs.

Let's smash some outdated ideas here.

At first, flirting is never about asking her personal questions. And, it is never about establishing compatibility. In fact, flirting can only be quickly successful by avoiding methods that guys often use to find a common bond.

In actuality, the flirting technique is about creating intimacy. It’s that delicate balance between teasing a woman, while making her need your focused attention. And, whatever you do, do not compliment her at this stage of the game. That's lame and will not work in 99% of the cases. She will see right through it or might even have low self esteem herself and simply will not believe you are sincere. You will be surprised at how many really beautiful women have low self esteem!

Instead, confidently approach her and find a way to create that emotional connection that you must have for all successful flirting conversations! You’ll find that low-key teasing and light conversation are the best ways to attract and date your dream girl of the moment. In other words: Don't be so serious!

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On Line Relationships: How To Date An Executive

Executives may seem beyond the reach of the average person looking for love on line. The image is of a professional who has the financial means to pick and choose whom to date. This is an image that is only partially true. Executives have busy and often lonely lives. Here is how to get a date with an executive.

Most executives are leery of joining traditional on line dating sites so you likely will not find many executives listed on those sites. However, there are on line dating sites that actually cater to executives that you can join and, perhaps, make a connection.

The interesting thing about on line executive dating services is executives are not looking for an executive of the opposite sex, as a rule. They are looking for someone to take to dinner, maybe a show or night out on the town just for some fun and relaxation. The executive life can be very stressful and a date who is not a fellow executive is preferable because it eliminates "shop talk" and focuses on just having fun.

It does help if you are a professional person who can match up as far as education and intellect. You should not be in the same field, however, just to keep it interesting for both of you. For example, a Wall Street type might fit well with a professional concert musician.

Executive online dating sites are run the same as mainstream online dating sites. You will be required to create a personal profile. You should keep it real and honest. Share your likes, dislikes, education, and so forth so a potential date can decide whether to pursue you further. Post a recent head shot and perhaps some photos of you having fun doing your favorite things.

Executive online dating sites allow members to review the profiles of potential partners just as mainstream sites do. This allows you to search for a particular type of person you hope will be your perfect date. You can search the database using a wide range of criteria to narrow the field.

It is not unusual for some executives to be seeking a marriage partner. Executive dating sites are an easy way to narrow the selection of potential mates. If marriage is your goal you may want to state that in your profile. It will eliminate prospects who are only interested in a short term relationship.

Another aspect of executive online dating sites is the ability to network with people with whom you might have similar business interests. This can lead to joint ventures or just simple friendships which can broaden your experiences. It does not have to be all about dating or marriage.

As with all online dating services, caution is advised, especially if you are an an executive with a highly visible position in your company. Be careful whom you choose to date to be sure you will not compromise your company or your position. This is another reason to choose someone who is not in your field of business. This way you can avoid any conflicts.

While executive dating sites were established to cater primarily to the time and schedule restraints of busy executives, they are not 100% immune to persons who might try and exploit you. This is why it is a good idea to use mainly established executive online dating sites rather than newer sites. Of course, if you find a site that has good testimonials from other members, sign up and check it out to see if it fits.

When evaluating which site to join, review the number of executive listings. Look over some member profiles if they allow it. The more executives listed, the better chance you will have of finding someone in their database that matches you.

Another way to check out potential executive dating sites to join is to simply do an Internet search for "reviews". Use the name of the site and the word "reviews". You will likely find comments from folks who either like or dislike the particular site and their reasons. You may also find reviews by people who are experts at evaluating such sites. However, make sure the reviews are not pushing a particular site. The review writer may be getting a commission if you sign up through their review.

What will it cost?

Well, the best sites do charge a membership fee and will require that you fill out an application form of some kind, perhaps, even require that you answer survey questions to be sure your motives are honorable. That said, you will find the cost very reasonable for the value they provide.

Some sites have various plans from which to choose and they are priced accordingly. To get a feel for the process, look for free online dating sites and those that offer a free trial period before you actually commit to a membership fee.

Many people have found companionship, love, and marriage through online executive dating sites. So, go ahead and give it a chance. You just might become one of the success stories.

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Online Flirting for Men – A New Art Form

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting. Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being arrogant. Here's how to pull it off.

If you go too far, she will label you “slimy”. If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”. So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language? All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right?

1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful.

2. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.

3. Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Do Not be self depreciating.

4. Listen…listen….listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders!

5. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.

6. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.

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How to Avoid Being a Victim of a Liar

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Although honesty is generally taught as the best policy, I would propose that it is the only policy to follow in 99% of cases. The other 1% could be called "white lies." How are you to know the difference, that is, when someone is telling the whole truth as opposed to a white lie? Here are some tips that will help you spot a liar.

There was an old Hollywood movie starring Charles Bronson as a buffalo hunter and Will Sampson as an Indian Chief. They are in a cave together, hunting the same killer white buffalo, when they engage in a conversation about truth. Bronson, known to the Indians as "the shooter" because he is a skilled hunter, has his version of the truth and the Chief has his. The Chief asks - "Tell me Shooter, what is the true truth?" I ask you the same question. For me, the true truth is the whole truth, no shading. What is it for you?

As we go about our interaction with each other, the white lie is employed more than any other form of communication with those closest to us. We are more apt to shade the truth in order to avoid hurt feelings or, when we know a person really well, we tell a white lie because we know they really don't want the true truth. They have their version of the true truth and that's the version they want to hear.

When we deal with strangers, telling a lie is easy because we likely will never see them again but what about that stranger we may see again? You need to decide if what you are lying about is worth what you will gain as opposed to the potential consequences if your lie is discovered. It is a personal decision. You need to be realistic with yourself. It is easy to become a compulsive liar and ruin your life. Under what circumstances are you willing to risk damaging relationships, reputation, and future opportunities. Ask yourself. Do the benefits of telling the lie outweigh the risks?

For example: A teen boy tells his parents he's going to the movies with a friend but he's really going to a concert with his girlfriend. Logically, the parents are going to ask what the movie was about and if he enjoyed it. Now, beforehand, the teen could Google a summary of what was in the movie; along with the climax so he can be ready for the questions. Such a young man may not consider the consequences if he is caught in the lie. He does not realize that his parents will be emotionally hurt by his lie and will take a long time before ever trusting him again. His lie has destroyed the parent-child relationship for a long time to come.

Telemarketing has taught us that it's relatively easy to lie to someone over the phone because the sense of personal connection is very small. You can't see them; they can't see you. As a result, you are less likely to feel guilty and, therefore, give visual clues that you may be deviating from your normal behavior. If you were closer to the person physically, you would have a greater personal connection. Consequently, you would be more likely to reveal, in some way, that you are engaging in deceptive behavior.

The same reasoning applies to being close to a person psychologically. If you try to lie to your girlfriend or boyfriend, there are numerous psychological pressures. For example, you'll think about what happens if you get caught, feel guilty about lying to someone you care about and it will be more difficult to focus on mimicking your normal behavior. This phenomenon is often called "liars' remorse," and it's usually what people are talking about when they say a liar "wants to get caught." Those closest to us know when we are lying and when we are shading the truth a bit.

Most strangers will not have a clue if you are an accomplished liar. It takes years, by the way, to develop a liar's mentality. An amateur liar will not look you right in the eye when lying. They may touch their head with their hand, or hold their palms up as they spin the lie. These are both giveaways. An accomplished liar does the opposite. They look you in the eye, their hands at their side. An amateur liar will use the strongest adjectives and a voice level that are above normal pitch and speed. A friend of mine says - "I can tell when someone's lying. They talk faster than I can listen."

Most professionals employ specific tactics to catch liars. The cops will make small talk with you to establish what your "normal" behaviors are. When they get down to the serious subject matter, they look for cracks in that normal behavior. Polygraph machines work the same way. There are mental and physical drives that can be detected by skilled interviewers, as well as machines.

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A Man's Secrets to Successful Online Dating

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People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

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Nurturing Online Dating Mates

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

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Online Dating Relationships: Safety First

Online dating can be fun. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm www.zonelabs.com
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus www.grisoft.com

Protect Yourself

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend.

In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

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Not All People That Abuse Are Bad People

If you have ever been abused, the above statement may make some of you bristle or get angry. For that, I apologize. However, as a former Pastoral Counselor, I can attest, it's still a fact nonetheless.

Take a few moments to read the following article by Guest writer, Karen Stephenson.

Inside Abusive Relationships
People that Abuse are Not All Bad People
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Anger Management Skills That Work

Since anger issues affect individuals from childhood to adulthood, obviously it is necessary to teach anger management skills that work for every age group. For the person who is dealing daily with anger problems, it is important to learn skills that will be effective in coping.

There are many, many positive techniques and skills related to anger management. Since anger management seems to affect so many people in society, it is imperative to design and create techniques, teach skills, provide counseling and provide appropriate care and support.

One skill that tends to help people deal with negative emotions is acupressure. This technique used as an anger management skill is achieved by tapping or rubbing the body. Using this skill, briskly massaging the body when feeling tense and upset, causes an individual's energy to move around their body which results in relaxation.

An anger management skill or techniques known as the Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT can be combined with acupressure to fight against negative emotions. EFT works to balance the brain hemispheres to help an individual admit to their problem and find forgiveness. This anger management skill would be very beneficial in helping a person release feelings of anger and relax.

Adopting positive anger management skills might involve keeping a journal. When an individual writes about the situations which upset them, it helps to get the negative thoughts and emotions out of their head. By journaling about feelings and emotions, a person is able to rid their minds of unhealthy thinking and put them on paper. This anger management activity would provide specific details and perhaps triggers which usually set the individual off. Being able to read and review reactions to situations, a person might be capable of making changes in their behavior.

When considering anger management skills, there is one which is quite easy to adopt: Removing themselves from a threatening situation. This might eliminate the problem. If a person realizes they have difficulties controlling their temper, they might consider staying away from situations which may cause heated arguments.

If a person has a regular pattern of lashing out during specific conversations, they ought to avoid those incidents. Some people who have anger issues seem to find a reason to get upset. If aiming to adopt anger management skills, these people should attempt to change this way of thinking. Instead of reacting to the problem, they ought to run from the problem.

Adopting anger management skills that work is definitely an essential step when striving to cope with feelings of rage and anger. There are many suggestions and recommendations offered on Internet sites related to anger management skills. It would certainly help to visit these sites and read the information and advice.

It is unreasonable to think that a person will use all of the anger management skills suggested. However, finding one that works may mean trying each of them at least once. When an individual is attempting to gain control and eliminate the negative feelings normally dictating their life, exploring anger management skills is necessary to find a technique or skill which works for them.

Above all, in the most severe cases, a certified professional should be consulted as therapy may be indicated.

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Memory: A Key To Better Relationships

You can enhance your personal and professional relationships by developing the one talent that anyone can develop - a powerful memory.

Sometimes it seems we go "brain dead" at the most critical moments. We meet someone for a second time and go blank on their name. We have to make a presentation and our memory leaves us embarrassed. It does not have to be that way.

Here are my top tricks to get you on the path to becoming a master of memory:

1. Use humor or exaggeration.

Information stays in memory longer if it is related to something novel and interesting. Make up something funny or exaggerated that ties into what needs to be memorized.

2. Focus.

If you're in a situation where something is going on that you want to remember, focus and quietly tell yourself you will remember it. It takes eight seconds to process a piece of information and store that information in your brain. So, when you meet someone new, repeat their name silently in your mind several times while studying their face.

You can even ask them to repeat their name and then repeat it back to them: "I'm sorry, what is your name again?" Then, repeat it back as a question: "Bob Jones? Nice to meet you Bob."

3. Think movies.

Let's say you acquire new information from a documentary film. You were interested in the topic. Interest and focus are very important to committing something to memory. Then you consolidated it with similar memories. For example, you knew some basic information about the topic at hand and the documentary provided accentuating pieces of knowledge. You let those fall into place and connect with what you already knew about the topic. Then comes retrieval, which is self explanatory and where tips for improving your memory pay off.

4. Memory can be short-term or long-term.

In short-term memory, your mind stores information for a few seconds or a few minutes: the time it takes you to dial a phone number you just looked up or to compare the prices of several items in a store. Such memory is fragile, and it’s meant to be. Your brain would soon read “disk full” if you retained every phone number you called, every dish you ordered in a restaurant, and the subject of every ad you watched on TV. Your brain is also meant to hold an average of seven items, which is why you can usually remember a new phone number for a few minutes but need your credit card in front of you when you’re buying something online.

Long-term memory involves the information you make an effort (conscious or unconscious) to retain because:

..... it’s personally meaningful to you (for example, data about family and friends)

..... you need it (such as job procedures or material you’re studying for a test)

..... it made an emotional impression (a movie that had you riveted, the first time you ever caught a fish, the day your uncle died).

Some information that you store in long-term memory requires a conscious effort to recall: episodic memories, which are personal memories about experiences you’ve had at specific times; and semantic memories (factual data not bound to time or place), which can be everything from the names of the planets to the color of your child’s hair. Another type of long-term memory is procedural memory, which involves skills and routines you perform so often that they don’t require conscious recall.

5. Tell yourself out loud that you need to do things. Also, verbalize things as you do them.

These can be mundane things. For instance, you can say out loud when you turn off the oven, lock the door or shut the window. This will help to train your brain to focus when you need to remember important things later.

6. After being introduced to someone try using their name several times in conversation.

7. Work new information into your conversation with others. Share new facts with others. All of these things will help you in your recall.

8. Do what you can to relieve stress.

Stress makes it hard to concentrate, and unrelieved, long-term stress can actually damage your hippocampus, a part of your brain essential for processing information that goes into your memory. Yoga and meditation are great tools for relieving stress.

9. Finally, remember this: The key to encoding information into your memory is concentration. Unless you focus on information intently, it goes “in one ear and out the other.”

These 9 tips will get you on the right track toward dominating your memory to become more popular and successful.

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Get Your Ex Back The Smart Way

Getting an ex back is the fantasy of millions of people who have been dumped by someone they thought was their soul mate. It is a painful and shocking experience but, if your ex still has love for you, your breakup can be reversed with the right techniques.

Here are some smart tips for getting your ex back.

Over centuries, dreamers and poets spoke of love as an idealized state of mind that they created. But in reality, authentic love between a couple happens after the exciting newness of the first few passionate encounters wear off. Love becomes real and starts to develop after the early excitement dies down. The danger is that we take our partner for granted, believing they will love us no matter how we offend them. Taking our partner for granted plants the seeds of a breakup.

When you are dating someone, you are just not ready to consider the bad that might happen. You only see the good and a happy future. One of those things that you need to be ready for is what to do if the relationship ends abruptly and without warning. Do you go on with your life, licking your wounds as if nothing has happened, or do you do the smart things needed to get your ex back?

Perhaps you have been on the verge of giving up because your friends and family members may not be very supportive of you trying to get your ex back. They may advise you to let go of the relationship and find someone better. But, giving up on your ex and starting over is not as easily done as said.

If you are wondering whether you can get them back you need to do some soul searching. How you proceed depends on what you did or did not do during the relationship. Many times our partners tell us in advance what we are doing that upsets them. Many times we make the mistake of not listening or ignoring their warnings. When this happens, we are shocked when we are dumped.

Well, if you are really serious about getting your girlfriend back, then you should be totally honest with yourself. You need to admit where you messed up the relationship and, if they give you another chance, resolve to not repeat your behavior. That's a good starting point toward mending the relationship - admitting your fault.

What if your girlfriend is ignoring you? It doesn't mean the relationship is finally over. Perhaps, she is only ignoring you temporarily. You just have to wait for the right timing to contact her again, especially if both of you have just broken up and test the waters. If she is open to talking with you, there is hope.

If you are really serious abut getting your girlfriend back, you need to understand one thing. There is most likely a main cause for the break up to occur. The problem can lie with her or maybe with you. Or it may lie with both of you. Whatever the situation is, you will have to try to resolve it.

Even though what you see as wrong with your partner may be true and is really how you feel, you do not want to point a finger of blame at your partner. Doing that may cause your ex to perceive you as blaming it all on them and will make your ex want to avoid you more. Concentrate only on pointing out what you did wrong. If your ex does not reciprocate with what they may have done wrong, you may have a losing cause. Both sides must be willing to change or any reunion will only be temporary. The old habits will again destroy the relationship, perhaps, for good. What you want to do now is to understand this principle and use it to your advantage.

At the same time there are some mistakes you want to void. For example, one mistake that many guys make is to try to call their girlfriend too often, in an attempt to get their girlfriend back. This is a sign of desperation and no girls like guys who are desperate.

Of course, there are many other common mistakes beside the one mentioned above. For starters, a guideline you want to follow is to avoid doing things that make your partner perceive you as being emotionally desperate. Keep your efforts for reunion above emotional arguments and stick to factual arguments. Emotional arguments make you appear "needy".

Relationships come with no guarantees, and when you decide to enter into a relationship with that special one, there is no telling what may happen. Naturally, you hope that your feelings for each other will last and that the relationship will endure until the end of time. But what happens if the relationship comes to an unexpected ending? Take some time out to determine what you want to do next. You can choose to move on, or you may decide that you really want to get back together with your ex.

I hope this helps.

Jim DeSantis is a retired Pastoral Counselor who edits 35 blogs and websites. Jim provides more information about how to Get Your Ex Love Back - here!
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Online Dating Bliss For Everyone

Online dating was introduced to a mass audience with the 1998 film, "You've got mail!" This was, perhaps, the first movie to portray two people conducting a relationship entirely online before meeting each other face-to-face. We, as a society, have come a long way since that movie with the introduction of high-tech cyber-dating.

There are a myriad of websites that cater to folks looking for that elusive soul mate. The process involved in meeting someone online varies from site to site. The basic process for meeting another person online is for you to sign on to an online dating site by entering a user name and password that applies only to you and then filling out a profile page.

Your profile can contain any personal or professional details you would like to share within the site guidelines. Your information is then entered into the site database and users have various ways of accessing your profile just as you have access to their profiles. You can then search for potential partners by age, gender, location and shared interests.

Online dating services enable individuals to meet via the web in order to strike up real life romantic relationships and the myriad of sites cater to nearly every taste. You name it, you are likely to find a site that serves your needs.

Even while many sites are specialized, you will still need to practice diligence and caution. Be cautious of sites that offer their matchmaking services for free. You may think this is a good idea but think again.

Free sites do not usually offer the in-depth analysis of prospects as do paid sites. The top sites are usually those that charge a fee. They usually require all prospects to take a scientific survey before being allowed membership. They offer a level of protection that free sites may not.

A downside of online dating is you may open yourself to hundreds of unsolicited email messages. There will be many people asking for your email address in order to continue your relationship privately, that is, away from the online dating site. Don't fall for this. Stay in communication through the dating sites until you are absolutely sure of the person on the other end.

Scammers will use your email to flood you with unsolicited emails. You may want to get a free email account to use solely for your online dating communication. You can always delete it if you become a victim of unwanted emails.

Online dating sites are even used by all manner of con artists. Some sites do not have adequate security measures in place. These sites have no way of verifying the true identity of members. So, don’t jump into a relationship in a hurry. Keep it friendly and casual until you know for certain that the person you find attractive is real.

On rare occasions, a female who has met up with a male via online dating has been assaulted. Know how to defend yourself. There are many good reasons, even outside of online dating, to take a self-defense course. One good safety tip is to have someone go with you to that first date and simply observe from a distance to make sure all is going according to plan. It's better to be safe than make yourself vulnerable.

Provided that you always proceed with caution and take the necessary steps to keep yourself safe you should not have any serious problems with your dating experiences. There are definitely dangers associated with online dating but there are also ways to avoid them. On that word of caution, if you have been reluctant to go online and meet someone, put your fear aside and live a little.

Internet dating is the current hot trend because of the busy lives of most people. It works because it's convenient. There are thousands of happy couples who would not be together if it was not for this new medium of meeting people. In fact, two women in my wife's workplace both found mates on line and both are living happily.

With the current success in online dating, online dating is experiencing a growth that is so huge, no one could have predicted it. With everything form Goth dating sites to 30-plus dating sites, there is an online dating site for everyone.

While there is much more you should learn before taking the leap, online dating just may be the safest way to meet that special someone.

Jim DeSantis

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The Key To Success And Prosperity - Relationships!

Some principles remain true down through the ages. Whether we cook over a fire or push a button on the microwave, the power of relationships is one of those principles. When fully understood, creating effective relationships will open unimaginable doors for you.

Now I am not talking about networking as we understand that term today. I am talking about a delicate balance that requires extra effort to establish and maintain. Building relationships really is the key to your future success and prosperity.

Building solid relationships that stand the test of time is a necessity for several reasons. For example, in a group or organization, the success of each person depends on how efficient and effective the relationships within that group or organization function and how each relationship relates to the management of the organization.

The person who understands how to build and maintain effective relationships is the person who could run the organization one day in the near future.

On the one hand, being part of a group or organization that has not established solid relationships among its members can really be very frustrating. On the other hand, an effective group or organization may ask so much of their members, that sometimes the members would have no life outside the organization because they are forced to sacrifice all other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. Organizations or groups with these kinds of scenarios are dysfunctional and relationships can be stressed to the point of disintegration.

One only needs to watch The Apprentice with Donald Trump or some of the other reality shows for some good tips on how relationships should and should not function.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. It's the time tested - "It's not what you know, it's who you know that counts." Creating relationships that are mutually beneficial, where cooperation and respect are required of both parties, will create a success environment that, eventually, will impact society for better or worse. Criminal enterprises are based largely on relationship as are athletic teams. One creates good, one does not but, in both, each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal that will benefit all members of the group. This can only be achieved with effective and efficient relationships.

To get what you want you must first understand the needs of the other party to be in a position to craft an effective and efficient relationship. What is the easiest way to understand what is important to another party? Ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party sees that you really want to know, they will give you all the information that you need to determine how you can create a solution that is beneficial to you as well as them.

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly and clearly express what they need and want out of forging the relationship. Never assume that the other party understands our needs and will just give us what we need, when we need it, without asking for it. You must not also assume that you know their needs lest you give up something you will later regret giving. It is a step by step process. The first step is to ask what they need and to make sure the other party knows exactly what you need by telling them so.

A key component to a successful relationship is mutual respect. This is grown through the process of open communication. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they think. A good tool is to listen first and summarize what they tell you by saying something like - "Let me make sure I have this straight. Are you saying you need me to.......?" Keep asking and listening and summarizing until you have a solid understanding of what the other party needs. By the same token, use this tool to clearly articulate your needs by saying something like - "So, if I can do........ for you, you can do ..............for me, right?"

Asking, listening, and summarizing will ensure there are no misunderstandings later and will start laying the foundation of respect on which you will begin building the relationship. If both parties carry out their parts of the bargain, the relationship can last for years and continue to provide benefits to both parties.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle areas of disagreement openly. Disagreements between parties can be quite interesting. When five people see the same accident there will likely be five different versions told to the investigators. Each person sees the situation from their own perspective. If you can can see past the differences you are the one who can create a win-win solution for both parties.

When you acknowledge that the relationship is more important that the areas of disagreement, be the one to exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party's problem areas and try to get it out of the way. Even if you fail, it demonstrates to the other party that you really want to establish a long term relationship that will be mutually beneficial.

Another key is to create an atmosphere that is conducive to informal discussions. This allows both parties to relax and bring out issues and concerns comfortably. Why are so many business deals made on the golf course do you imagine?

When an informal location is not possible, develop an informal atmosphere right where you are. If in an office, make sure there are no obstacles like a desk or table between you and the other party. The key is making the whole process less threatening so the other party will express their feelings as if they are having an informal chat with a friend.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. Think long term in creating relationships. I have relationships that go back 20 years and more. These are people whom I may only talk with once a year but who are as close as the telephone and willing do me a favor without the expectation of anything in return because I will do the same for them when they need help.

That's what relationships are for.

Jim De Santis

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Be The Center of Attention - Anytime, Anywhere

Would you like to become that person, you know whom I mean, that person who is so naturally friendly that when you see them among a group of strangers, they seem to be instant friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a person a "people-person,” someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that they can charm just about anyone they meet. They obviously know something you don't know.

When you are a socially-skilled person, you will achieve a higher level of greatness only because other people will promote you by telling others what a great person you are to be around or to do business with. Yes, these skills will help you make lots of money.

My friend "Red" was the consummate people-person. He made a small fortune selling used cars - part time! People made an appointment with him just to buy from him and only him! They spread the word to their friends that Red was the go-to guy for a used car.

When you master the following social skills, you will have the trust and all-out support of others just like Red. These will be people you have helped who are eager to help you. All you have to do is ask and they will bend over backwards to get you what you need. This gives you a small army of people who will help you achieve anything your heart desires.

Once you learn the following social skills and apply them, you reach a level self-empowerment you never imagined. In effect, self-empowerment is making a general overhaul of your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person. You just have to know and apply the following 10 skills.

1. Be genuine.

Make sure you go at this with good motives. People can read a phony and you will be stopped before you can even get started because people will tell others to keep away from you.

Be genuinely interested in everyone you meet. Once they perceive that you have selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.

To earn the love and trust of people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact and listen intently because every word they speak matters. And, ask questions to draw them out. Resist giving them unsolicited advice. Just listen, ask questions, and listen some more. Soon they will see that you are a person they can confide in.

3. Laugh out loud.

Don't force yourself to laugh at every joke or comment if you do not find it funny. A polite smile is fine in that case but, if it's funny to you, laugh out loud. Find humor in things and don’t be deadly serious about everything. When you display an awesome sense of humor, you will attract others and eventually, build successful relationships.

4. Don't forget yourself.

In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, guard against allowing others to walk all over you. If you love and value yourself before anyone else, if you see yourself worthy of affection and respect, people will flock to you and not simply use you. What do I mean by this? It's a fact that some people will see your personality as weak and will not take you seriously. Ignore them and move to others who appreciate you.

5. Be a "good-deed-doer.”

You don't have to give until you are broke. In fact, money is the worst thing you can give. Instead, do little acts of kindness. These matter the most and can be as simple as sending someone a surprise "Thinking of you" card or helping someone get something they need through one of your friends or contacts. I often use my network of acquaintances to make things happen for others with a simple phone call.

6. Contact your old friends.

Many friendships are destined to end for various reasons beyond our control. But, thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping through your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you, and them, feel good all over.

If you locate them, don't make direct contact at first. Instead, break the ice by sending a card with your phone number enclosed. Invite them to contact you. Let things take a natural course. They may have reasons for not renewing the friendship.

7. Kill your negative personality.

Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally a doom-and-gloom person? If you are, I'll bet you can count your friends and acquaintances on one hand! Get rid of those traits and habits that have been hampering your growth. No one wants to be around a grouch.

8. Be confident.

This takes courage at first but learn to move around a room of people and purposely introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant. Apply #1 and #2 above as you meet and greet new people.

9. Practice control.

When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of the situation, transforming your anger into something more productive and passive. If your anger rises to gigantic proportions easily, people will find it hard to confide in you. In fact, people will avoid you.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships.

Whatever happens in life, your relationships with your family, friends and significant others are so precious that you must not neglect them. Keep them active by going out and having fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never elude you when the people who matter most to you are close to you.

In the end, self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation - people know they can turn to you for help and comfort and they will be eager to return the favor.

Yours for success.
Jim DeSantis

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How DO I Avoid the Dangers of Dating Sites?

Most of us can be deceived by the personality that a person presents on a matchmaking site. But there is a way you can find out who they really are inside so you can avoid the dangers and pitfalls of the dating game.

Many folks believe that if their profile matches another person, they will be a match and can live in peace and harmony. While profiles can show another person's preferences, they do not reveal the inner personality -- who they really are inside. This is why it is a serious mistake to assume that you know a person simply because a matchmaking site has shown that you have compatible profiles. But, alas, this is what countless people do every day, and they wonder how they could be so wrong about another person.

The answer is that they did not know who that person was inside.

For instance, as a professional matchmaking astrologer, I have found couples who have had very compatible celestial energies. They appear to be the ideal couple. They are very loving and pleasant to observe. But I have seen a serious flaw in some of these relationships which cannot be seen or explained by ordinary means.

Such a flaw often end up being the source of a breakup, and folks simply don't understand why they "didn't see it coming." Their problem was easily seen in the combination of their signs and planets but totally hidden to themselves and any outside observer.

The average couple does not have enough tools to know what is going on in the deep recesses of another person's psyche. Matchmaking sites certianly do not have this capacity. And there is no computer program that can synthesize these energies as well as the human brain.

Then there is the danger of downright dishonesty.

Some folks submit a photo that was taken 20 years ago. Can you imagine the impact this has on the other person when they meet face to face?

Others are already married and lie about it. They simply want to have an affair. They can easily mislead the other person.

Then there are those who want to find a "good catch," so they manipulate the facts to convince the other person that they have a great education, came from a well-to-do family, and love all the things the other person loves and appreciates.

But, as I have so often said, the signs and planets of the heavens reveal the truth of any relationship. They reveal the inner nature of a person. This cannot be hidden from a skilled, celestial matchmaker.

If you really want to play it safe and avoid the dangers of the dating sites, I beg you to find out who the other person really is inside.

© 2006 Randall Curtis

Randall Curtis has been a professional matchmaking astrologer for over 50 years. For more help and further information, check out his website at Matchmaking Heaven.com

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Teenage Dating Violence

What Every Child and Parent Must Know!

If there ever was any doubt in your mind where adult domestic violence has its roots-put your inquisitive mind at rest. It starts with our kids!! In a recent study partnered by Teenage Research Unlimited and the Liz Claiborne Corporation, teens 13-18 were surveyed on the frequency of dating violence in their lives.

The study revealed some shocking statistics and facts about the teen dating scene. Among many conclusions are that a significant percentage of teens not only are victims of dating abuse but also they accept it as normal and that they feel pressured to have and keep relationships particularly if it is a "serious" one.

Teens in these serious relationships report by nearly a 2 to 1 margin more abuse, controlling and even violent behavior compared to other teens.

The study also showed that:
- 20% in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed
- 30% report being worried about their physical safety
- 64% report controlling behavior
- 55% compromise their values to please their partner
- 61% reported having a partner who made them feel bad or embarrassed about themselves
- 25% report being in a relationship where their partner put them down or called them names
- 29% said they were pressured to have sex they do not want
- 50% of young women worry that their partner will break up with them if they do not agree to engage in sex.

It is no wonder that this problem exists with teenage male belief systems that include:
- Controlling their partners
- Possessing their partners
- Demanding intimacy
- Physical aggression is the "masculine" thing to do.

Teenage female beliefs include:
- There's no resource for help
- Abuse is normal because their peers are abused
- Jealousy, possessiveness and even abuse are "romantic".

Historically other studies and surveys support these findings. This serves as pretty solid evidence that teenagers grow up in a society that frowns on adult domestic violence, yet it appears they serve their apprenticeships in high school learning the nuances of how to abuse. Do they learn on their own or do they learn from their abusive parents? It is a very difficult question to answer nevertheless the cycle must be broken. Today's youth represent the best chance to make a change.

Here's how to start. Educate and Prevent.

Know Some Warning Signs. Is there a history of violence with previous partners? Are there threats of violence, use of force? Is there cruelty to animals? Are traits of sudden anger, jealousy, verbal abuse, controlling behavior, unpredictable mood swings present? All or any of these can be predictors of future behavior and definite warning signs.

Set Standards. Only allow double dates for the first few dates. Know exactly what the plans are-who, where, what, when-be very specific. Remember: Trust but Verify. You love your children. It is your responsibility to set the standards for their actions.

Develop a Safety Plan. In an emergency know who to call: police, relative, parents, friend, neighbor, pastor-have a calling card handy. Know who you can trust to talk to. Develop a buddy system at school so you are never alone. Change your route to school if necessary. Carry some non lethal self defense items-pepper spray, personal defense alarms, etc. Trust your instincts.

Above all be prepared. Knowing what to look for and keeping an open mind may end up saving you a lot of pain.

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Verbal Abuse Quiz - Are you being verbally battered?

by Lenore Skomal

Experts say emotional and verbal abuse is often more damaging than physical abuse. For Andrea Izbicki, the emotional abuse started early on in her relationship with a man in Florida.

"He started getting jealous, accused me of being somewhere I wasn't, questioned phone calls to family and friends, asked for receipts from shopping trips. He always accused me of being with another guy," said the 35-year old Erie resident. "I thought, 'He just doesn't trust me yet.' He said he didn't trust women because of an old girlfriend. I felt I needed to prove my trust to him, and eventually he would come around and realize I was a good person."

He didn't, and their relationship ended when he threw her across a room a year later. She called 911, and then her family to come and get her.

Izbicki considers herself lucky. "I think I was very lucky to leave the way I did," Izbicki said. "I had the support of my family compared to some of these women. They still have to see them (their abuser). You know what, eventually, I always thought he would kill me."

Are you verbally abused? Check out this list of questions. Answering "yes" to more than two questions means you should seek help or more information.

What’s your relationship like?

o Do you feel that something is wrong with your relationship but you don't know how to describe it?
o Do you feel that your partner controls your life?
o Do you feel that your partner does not value your thoughts or feelings?
o Will your partner do anything to win an argument, such as put you down, threaten or intimidate you?
o Does your partner get angry and jealous if you talk to someone else? Are you accused of having affairs?
o Do you feel that you cannot do anything right in your partners eyes?
o Are you told that no one else would want you, or that you are lucky your partner takes care of you?
o Do you have to account for every moment of your time?
o When you try to talk to your partner about problems, are you called names such as bitch or nag?
o Are you prevented from going to work or school?
o If you wish to spend money, does your partner make you account for every penny?
o After an argument, does your partner insist that you have sex as a way to make up?
o Does your partner blame you for everything that goes wrong?

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Relationship Success - Your Word Reflects Your Family Name!

by Jim DeSantis

It's difficult to live up to the expectations of others, especially Adults, if you are a young person. Individuality is so important these days. Going with the flow, with your peers, is called the "herd mentality". Follow this simple rule and you will be a leader of the herd, not merely one of the herd.

When I was a teen I was a "greaser", a rebel. I had the "pegged pants", leather motorcycle jacket, belonged to a car club, played in a 50's Rock n' Roll band, slammed a few beers, and dated the "chicks". It was a typical life, right out of the movies, and real.

In the 60's I had the second chopper motorcycle in our city. My buddy "Spesh" (nickname for Special) brought his custom chopper back from California and I went wild over it. We all did. Within several months about 10 of us had choppers. The cops never saw one before and just didn't know what to do about us. It was comical, really! But, I digress. Back to the topic at hand.

One thread ran through our lives back then - "a man's word is his bond". This applies to women, too.

My Dad would say - "If your word is no good, you are no good!". No matter what we did, no matter how much trouble we got into, that one thing could not be avoided - Word! We could pull all kinds of tricks, even lie when needed, even bend the Law when needed but that one thing could never be broken - giving one's word. It was never to be taken lightly, ever!

Giving one's word was a trap, of sorts. It was a trap because, once your word was given, and no matter to whom it was given, it had to be kept - period! It was how we were measured among our friends, relatives, and loved ones. It determined our reputation as someone who could be trusted or not trusted. It opened doors when kept and slammed them in our face when broken. So, what does this mean to today's teen?

Truth is a habit and so is giving one's word. These are habits that will serve anyone who develops them, serve that individual for a lifetime. They apply in every facet of life, especially in loving relationships and, of course, in our careers. A mate wants to know we can be trusted and we want to trust them in return. A boss wants to know he/she can promote us or confide in us. The only way to build trust is to keep one's word.

A businessman friend of mine had a rule about giving one's word. We were in his office one day, he ran a used car lot, when a friend of his came in and needed to borrow some money. My friend Johnny was glad to do it but said this to him - "Now don't tell me your going to pay me back at the end of the month and not pay me. If you don't pay me when you say, I'll never lend you another dime. I'd rather you tell me you don't know when you can pay me back so I won't be disappointed." This was a great lesson for his friend to learn and one you should learn as well. Be careful what you promise to do.

By now you're wondering what this has to do with the Family Name, right? Well, it's simple really.

When you break your word or get into trouble with the law for that matter, you are telling everyone that you have lousy parents. Maybe you do but do you really want everyone to know that? Do want them to hear your family name and think - "liars, can't be trusted"? What is worse is if you have really loving and caring parents. You will damage the good name they spent a lifetime building.

Do you want someone to tell your boss about your habit of breaking your word? You know how nasty office politics can be. Why give your enemies an excuse to kill your chances for success? Do you want to disappoint your significant other by not keeping a promise and destroying the trust between you? Breaking your word will do just that!

Jesus, of the Bible, said - "Let your Yes be Yes and your No be No. Everything else comes from the evil one". Pretty strong stuff, eh?

James, of the Bible, said - "The tongue is the most evil organ in the body". Wow! And, in another place in the Bible it says - "Life and Death are in the power of the tongue".

Let me ask you - Do you want to be someone everyone can count on, can trust? Do you want to be someone that people confide in with their secrets? Do you want to be someone that anyone would feel comfortable loaning money to?

Keep your word!

Jim DeSantis

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